TL;DR: Semen retention does not mean you have to give up engaging in and enjoying sex. There is a sexual practice called karezza, which involves having sex with the goal of fostering love and closeness with your partner, rather than just reaching orgasm.
Intro
Reading through the various articles posted here on UpRiver, you will notice that there is a lot of talk about semen retention and sexual transmutation. Your initial thoughts, along with probably 99% of other men, is probably something along the lines of, “What the hell, I love sex, my girlfriend loves sex, how am I just supposed to give that up?” The good news is that you don’t have to. There are sexual practices that exist that don’t revolve around orgasming and ejaculating, so you can still enjoy sex with your partner, without losing your energy and dirve.
What is Karezza?
Karezza, or Coitus reservatus, is, in simplest terms, a type of sex where the man attempts to not ejaculate [1] . Instead, the focus is on building feelings of love and closeness with your partner. Karezza sessions are often slow and intimate, with the goal being to stay as close and connected with your partner as you can for as long as possible.
Benefits of Karezza
There are numerous benefits of practicing Karezza. The most obvious and arguably the most important benefit is semen retention. No ejaculation means you will be retaining your semen and reaping all the positive benefits of doing so. No more loss of energy and drive. With Karezza, you can still enjoy sex without the negative side effects it brings. For more information on Semen retention please read our article on it here.
Steve Jobs, billionaire co-founder a CEO of Apple, was known to be a practitioner of karrezza and tantric sex. A lover of his claimed that he would rarely allow himself to ejaculate during sex, saying that he wanted to save his “energy for work” and was “conserving one’s vital energies” [2]
There are also numerous health benefits to Karezza. Sex theorist, William J. Loyd, in his 1931 book, “The Karezza Method” [3] cited Karezza as being useful at treating several health issues, such as:
- Vaginal discharge
- Genital displacements, such as uterine prolapse
- Bladder problems
- Urethritis
- Painful menstruation
- Prostatitis
Finally, Karezza focuses on building feelings of love and closeness with your partner, rather than just rushing to orgasm. Many couples who have incorporated Karezza in the bedroom have claimed that his increased their enjoyment of their sex life and the quality of their relationship overall.
Matt Cooke, a recovering pornography addict who was struggling with performance anxiety began practicing karezza and said that, “It creates a deep feeling in a relationship that is very difficult to describe — much deeper than conventional sex” [4].
Gary Wilson, a man suffering from depression and alcohol addiction claimed that he was able to give up prozac and drinking after incorporating karezza into his marriage [4]
How to practice Karezza
Karezza is all about being close and intimate. Take things slow and really focus on how you feel when being close to your partner. Try to foster an environment of love and relaxation. If you feel yourself getting close to ejaculation, slow things down even further and switch to a less stimulating activity.
If you’re struggling to come up with ideas on how to practice Karezza, take some inspiration from the following list, courtesy of healthline.com [3]
- Smile, especially when making eye contact
- Make skin-to-skin contact
- Give unsolicited approval with smiles or compliments
- Look into your partner’s eyes for a few moments
- Listen to your partner intently
- Silently forgive yourself or your partner for errors or thoughtlessness
- Synchronize your breathing with your partner’s
- Kiss your partner with your lips and tongue
- Cradle or gently rock your partner’s head or torso
- Hold or spoon your partner in stillness for at least half an hour
- Make wordless sounds of contentment or pleasure in front of your partner
- Stroke your partner with the intent to comfort them
- Massage your partner, especially on the feet, shoulders, or head
- Hug your partner with the intent to comfort them
- Lie with one ear over your partner’s heart to hear their heartbeat
- Suck or touch your partner’s nipples and breasts
- Place your hand gently over your partner’s genitals with the intention to comfort them
Conclusion
It is possible to practice semen retention without giving up your sex life. Try incorporating karezza into the bedroom and see the benefits for yourself.
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References
[1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coitus_reservatus
[2] https://www.reuniting.info/blogs/karezza-korner/steve-jobs-wanted-make-tantric-love-his-garden-shed
[3] https://www.healthline.com/health/karezza#benefits
[4] https://abcnews.go.com/Health/karezza-lovemaking-orgasm-strengthens-marriages-advocates/story?id=16743124
